STEP (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting) Co-authored by Tucson ASA members Drs. Gary and Joyce McKay with the late Dr. Don Dinkmeyer and others, the STEP program is a multimedia, Adlerian based parent training program.STEP comes in three levels: STEP (elementary school aged children), Early Childhood STEP (children under 6) and STEP/Teen (preteens and teens). STEP is the world’s leading parent education program and has been translated into several languages including Spanish, German, French and Japanese. The English version has sold over 4 million copies in the United States alone. STEP is designed to be taught in seven weekly two hour sessions. STEP encompasses the Adlerian ideas of: Democratic parenting, Mutual respect, Purposive behavior, Encouragement, Family meetings, Natural and logical consequences. In addition, the program teaches effective communication and problem solving skills.
Nurturing Yourself and Others: Learn How to Fill Your Life With Happiness by ASA member Lee Schnebly. Tired of meeting other peoples’ needs and neglecting your own? You can be nurturing and caring without sacrificing your own happiness. Schnebly addresses: Self Esteem and how it motivates you and others; the difference between encouragement and praise; How to let go and live in the moment; When and how to take risks; How to revitalize relationships by reading between the lines.
Do It Yourself Happiness by ASA member Lee Schnebly. Schnebly invites you to take a friendly look at how to change beliefs, feelings and behavior. Lee offers professional insights to increase your self-awareness and encourage personal growth. Simple do-it-at-home exercises and tests will help you better understand yourself and the world around you. -Discover what makes you happy -Let go of past and present unhappiness -Deal effectively with life's problems -Discard old annoying habits -Develop a positive outlook -Make positive changes You can develop techniques and self-awareness that will encourage personal growth by examining topics such as: How our childhood decisions affect our entire life; Birth order and its effect on personality development; Childhood values that guide us today; Interpreting Life Style; and how to change unhealthy life patterns.
Raising a Responsible Child : How to Prepare Your Child for Today's Complex World, Don Dinkmeyer and ASA member Gary D. McKay. New York: Fireside, 1996. From the front cover: “An updated edition of the bestselling parenting classic that address the climate and concerns of today. …. (The authors) combine new insights and time-honored wisdom to tackle such current -- and crucial -- issues as stepparenting, the ‘new’ nuclear family, drugs, sex and AIDS.”
Raising Respectful Kids in a Rude World: Teaching Your Children the Power of Mutual Respect and Consideration Tucson ASA members Gary D. McKay, and Joyce L. McKay, Daniel Eckstein, and Steven Maybell. Rocklin, CA: Prima, 2001. (Now carried by Random House.) How can you develop caring and courteous children in this individualistic and often crass world? By creating an atmosphere of mutual respect, the foundation for effective human relationships. Inside are practical methods and techniques for encouraging a two-way street of love and kindness with your children. You will learn how to parent the right way—for respect, with respect—and discover: Essential skills of parenting and teaching respect; Constructive discipline methods that teach life skills; Secrets to engendering compassion and tolerance in children; Anger management and ways to address violent influences in society; And much more!
Being Happy Being Married: A Guide to Building a Better Relationship by ASA member Lee Schnebly, M.Ed. Keeping a realistic view of ourselves, our partners, and our relationships is the key to creating a marriage that is happy, healthy, and dynamic. Because we all bring generally unrealistic hopes and beliefs into our relationships, this is always easier said than done. Being Happy Being Married helps readers recognize the flaws in their expectations of marriage and of each other. Lee Schnebly helps readers use this knowledge as the first step toward improving communication with our partners, getting our needs met, and solving everyday marital problems.
How You Feel Is Up to You: The Power of Emotional Choice (Second Edition). Tucson ASA member McKay, Gary and Dinkmeyer, Don. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers, 2002. From the back cover: “Turn your feelings from liabilities (“I’m a victim”) into assets (“I can manage”) You can decide how you want to feel! …The self-improvement tool kit in this book will help you handle anger, anxiety depression, guilty and stress. … The new edition of How You Feel is Up to You. Is packed with self-assessment and self-discovery exercises, charts, and examples for real life situations. each chapter includes a summary section which will coach you in becoming and ‘ACE’ -- accepting your feelings, choosing new purposes, beliefs and feelings, and executing your new choices.”
Calming the Family Storm: Anger Management for Mom, Dad, and the Kids. Tucson ASA members Gary D. McKay and Steven A. Maybell. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers, (In press. Scheduled to be available fall of 2004.) A soon to be released exiting new book on family anger. The topics include: why the rise of anger in our families; understanding anger; how we create our anger; anger management strategies; five steps to less anger in your life; encouraging relationships; healthy communication; problem solving and conflict resolution; family and couple meetings; discipline without anger; helping kids manage their anger; angry divorces; single parents, stepfamilies; domestic violence and child abuse.
Backtalk : 3 Steps to Stop It Before the Tears and Tantrums Start by Audrey Ricker and Carolyn Crowder, Simon and Schuster, 1998. Now, two experts in the field share their simple and specific four-step program for ending backtalk and restoring balance in relationships between parents and children, from preschoolers to teens. You'll learn how to recognize backtalk, how to choose and enact a response that will make sense to you and the backtalker, and when to disengage from the struggle and move forward. Full of advice and encouragement as well as suggestions on how to keep track of what works and what doesn't, Backtalk can be put to use immediately, before you hear another "Whatever.”
Whining : 3 Steps to Stop It Before the Tears and Tantrums Start by Audrey Ricker and Tucson ASA member Carolyn Crowder. Simon and Schuster, 2000. Filled with numerous real-life examples, encouraging advice, and simple steps you can start using immediately, this invaluable guide will help you end the cycle of giving in to whining only to have your child do it again, and instead replaces misbehavior with effective, meaningful, and loving parent-child communication.
Eating, Sleeping, and Getting Up : How to Stop the Daily Battles with Your Child by ASA member Carolyn Crowder, Random House, 2002. Renowned for her no-nonsense, realistic, and extremely effective advice, parenting expert Carolyn Crowder has observed that the ultimate parent-child standoffs center around mealtimes, bedtimes, and the start of day. For anyone whose child is more likely to rise and whine than rise and shine, Eating, Sleeping, and Getting Up restores sanity to the household, with proven insights on: -Why nagging, reminding, coaxing, or bribing don’t work in the long run; How to break the cycle of arguing, threatening, and spanking; The keys to starting a new-and-improved routine; Specific language for ending a variety of standoffs.
Adlerian Family Counseling by ASA member and Master Teacher Oscar Christensen, and Thomas G. Schramski. The Adlerian model encourages a democratic view of interpersonal relationships, emphasizing the influences of family atmosphere, family constellation, and the purposeful nature of behavior. This book provides a systematic guide to the elements of family counseling, complete with sample dialogue to illustrate the concepts.
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Active Parenting Quality education programs for parents, children and teachers for use in schools, hospitals, social services organizations, churches and the corporate market. The Active Parenting model is heavily based upon the theories of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs The most popular program is Active Parenting Now, for parents of children ages five to twelve. Active Parenting Publishers is recognized as an innovator in the educational market and is committed to our mission of developing human potential through our programs.
Cooperative Discipline for Teachers A realistic, positive approach to tough discipline problems. Cooperative Discipline is a timely, realistic approach to discipline and classroom management. It’s a system that not only affirms students, but insists they share responsibility for their behavior, helping them develop the sense of self-worth that leads to achievement. The goals of Cooperative Discipline are to: Increase student achievement, Intervene effectively when students misbehave, Develop a classroom climate and school culture based on caring, clear limits, consistency, and respect, Build a foundation for the prevention of violence, Improve home, school, and community collaboration
Positive Discipline By NASAP member Jane Nelson, EdD., Positive Discipline is a program that teaches important social and life skills, in a manner that is respectful to both the adults and the young people in the situation - raising young people to be responsible, respectful and resourceful members of their community. It is based on the theory that children that have a sense of connection to their community (home, school) and those whose input is regarded as meaningful are less likely to engage in "mis" behavior. To be successful members of the community children need to be taught the necessary social skills. It is based on the understanding that discipline must be taught and that discipline teaches. Dr. Nelson has a series of Positive Discipline books for PARENTS and for EDUCATORS.
Overview of Adlerian Assumptions—excerpted from "Basic Principals of Adlerian Family Counseling" by Carroll Thomas and William C. Marchant in Adlerian Family Counseling, Edited by Oscar Christensen and Thomas Schramski.
North American Society of Adlerian Psychology—Information on the international organization. Includes information on annual conference, affiliates, membership, Diplomates, and contains links to other Adlerian resources.
Basic Principles of Adlerian Psychology—Basics of Adlerian theory, including information on Goals, Self Determination, Community and Social Interest.
Classical Adlerian Theory and Practice—Detailed description of Adlerian psychology and theory on personality, community, psychopathology, style of life, societal influence, and 12 stages of Adlerian Therapy.
Parent Encouragement Program (PEP) classes and workshops teach practical parenting skills geared to each stage of your child's development, whether you're looking for new parenting techniques or faced with serious parenting concerns.
ICASSI - International Committee of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes—Summer Conferences and Educational Opportunities founded by Rudolf Dreikurs.
Adler School of Professional Psychology—M.A., PsyD., and Certificate programs in Adlerian psychology.
AAISF - Concept Ma(Henry Stein / San Francisco) Visual graphic outlining feelings of inferiority in childhood.
Creative Life Therapy Patrick Morris, PhD. Creative approaches to work, belonging and love are explored in terms of commitment, purposeful and meaningful goals, social embeddedness and intimacy